Dating Advice For Women And How To Find Mr. Right
Attracting men to you, and even your finding your perfect mate isn’t as hard as you might think.
Not if you’re equipped with a bit of wisdom, which is my goal today… to impart a bit of my own hard-earned wisdom to you. (And maybe a little wisdom from Gandhi.)
There’s a principle in Law of Attraction circles that is meant to help people achieve their goals. It’s called the “Be, Do, Have” principle.
In a nutshell it means that to be the person you want to be, you must do the things the person you want to be would do, in order to have (or attract) the things the person you want to be has.
Makes sense, right?
This principle can be somewhat adapted in helping you on your journey to find Mr. Right.
Dating Advice For Women Tip #1: Be What YOU Want:
In Girl Gets Ring I talk about knowing what you want, and being the love you want. And I take a page from Gandhi in sharing the quote “Be the change you want to see in the world”.
Gandhi’s message is simple. Be those things you want to attract most, and attract them you will.
But first you have to actually know what the heck it is that you want first! For example…
- If you want a loving man that listens to you and moves through life with a great sense of humor, practice being loving towards others yourself, and having a good sense of humor.
- If you want a man who is honest and loyal, demonstrate honesty and loyalty yourself in your relationships with others.
Whatever it is you want in a man, figure it out and then be those things yourself and you will find that attracting men with similar traits and values becomes much easier.
Dating Advice For Women Tip #2: Don’t Kiss a Lot of Frogs:
Knowing very specifically what you do and don’t want in a guy is so crucial. That old saying you have to kiss a lot of frogs to find Prince Charming is BS.
All you’re doing is setting yourself up for failure by dating every guy that crosses your path in hopes he could be “The One”.
It’s much more effective to make that list of all the qualities you want (or don’t want) in a man and use that list as the benchmark in evaluating a potential mate before you ever even go on a first date!
- What are the things you absolutely will not compromise on when it comes to your man?
- What are things you will compromise on?
- Is honesty important to you?
- What if he is a habitual or compulsive liar?
- Are you into artists or science geeks?
- Do you want an athletic or well-traveled man?
- What about kids?
- Does divorce wave a red flag for you?
- Do you want a man with strong faith?
- What if his faith is different from yours?
- What if he yells a lot?
- What if he isn’t affectionate?
- What if he kisses funny?
- Do you like tall men? Skinny men? Muscled men?
It’s important to get very specific with your list of acceptable or unacceptable qualities because the more specific you can get, the more you narrow down the playing field.
Dating Advice For Women Tip #3: Never Settle!
There are a LOT of fish in the sea and being selective in whom you choose to share your life with is perfectly OK.
Don’t take this dating advice lightly and settle for a man that is anything less than what you want him to be. If you do settle, you will just be opening yourself up to heartache when your expectations aren’t met.
So never mind investing time in a relationship that is doomed for an unhappy ending! Relationships are tricky even on good days.
You’re stacking the odds in your favor when you take some time for yourself to get really clear about what you want. This is a principle that applies to just about everything in life, but when you apply it to your relationships, amazing things begin to happen!
Last Piece of Advice About Attracting Men:
It’s too easy to fool yourself into wasting years of your life on the wrong guy. Then you stay even longer, attempting to change him, by rationalizing to yourself that you’ve already invested so much time, it’d be crazy to give up now.
But when you know going in exactly what you will or won’t be OK with, it becomes so much simpler to attract a man that is right for you. If a guy doesn’t fit your criteria, cut him loose and move on. Find the man who does fit your criteria.
Finding Mr. Right isn’t rocket science it’s more like a process of elimination. Find the best, discard the rest.
Now how about you? Do you know exactly what you want in a man? How specific are you? Do you demonstrate the qualities you want him to have in your own relationships? Please share your story in the comments below, I’d love to hear all about it.
