Using Body Language to Attract Men – What’s YOUR Vibe?

Body Language to Attract Men

Humans are very sensory beings.

We often communicate in ways that extend beyond mere words. Things like body language play a pivotal role, as well as something often dubbed your “vibe”.

Have you ever been out on an excursion with friends and ran into a man whose “energy” just seemed to give you the heebie jeebies?

Like you weren’t sure if you should shake his hand, take a shower, or run for cover? (C’mon, I won’t be offended!)

Or met another woman while out in a social setting who just seemed to feel “cold” or “unfriendly” and you chalked her up as a “Big B” (you know what I’m sayin’ here) and proceeded to avoid any further socialization with her?

Body Language And Dating:

These interactions on the surface may have been perfectly pleasant as far as your verbal conversation went but it was the non-verbal cues you were receiving that were screaming warnings to your brain.

Your vibe is something men often pick up on, before you progress beyond the word hello. It’s translated from your mental thought processes and then broadcast to the world via silent body language first.

Then it’s further amplified by your (often unconscious) negative use of verbal language. If you are struggling in attracting men, especially good men, it may be time to take a look at what sort of “vibes” you are throwing out into the world.

Your negative thoughts and behaviors could be turning off men without you being aware of it. I’ll even go out on a limb here and venture to say it might make getting that ring a tad bit difficult!

Body Language to Attract Men – What’s YOUR Vibe?

If you have a poor self-image and readily apparent lack of confidence in yourself, men will notice. They will either be turned off entirely, or possibly be predators willing to take advantage of you.

Neither scenario is an attractive one for sure!

Someone’s internal dialogue that’s stuck in a negative mental loop might think things like:

  • “I look so fat in this.”
  • “I’ll never find a guy that really likes me.”
  • “I wish I looked like her, she’s way prettier than I am.”
  • “How come I can’t be smart or witty like that chick?”
  • “That was so dumb; I can’t believe I just did that!”

These thoughts are picked up by your body language as well as reveal themselves in your conversations and are like catnip to sharks looking to take advantage of women.

The nice guys simply see a neon sign blinking “Danger” above your head, and turn their attention to the warm, laid-back, confident woman two tables over.

Someone that has a poor self-image or lack of confidence might also think negative thoughts about others in an attempt to build themselves up.

However this often backfires because negative energy is still negative energy and displays as such. Men feel it and are turned off immediately.

Negative thoughts about others might look like this:

  • “Wow I can’t believe that girl is wearing that!”
  • “This guy in front of me needs to hurry up or get lost.”
  • “Dude, why are you with her?
  • “Is that guy homeless or what? That is not sexy!”

Regardless of whether your mental attitude is poor towards yourself or others, it becomes a part of your “vibe” and can unwittingly be like an invisible force field, keeping people out.

Men can sense when you aren’t confident about yourself or genuine to others and that immediately creates a trust issue as well as repels any true attraction they may have initially felt.

How to Use Body Language to Attract a Man:

The first step to changing your body language is to change your “vibe” and become aware of what you’re doing and the negative thoughts that are poisoning the air around you. Once you are aware of what you’re doing, you can then begin to make a focused effort to stop.

When you catch a negative thought running through you mind, even though it sounds a little hokey, you can mentally shout STOP to halt it immediately.

Once you stop the negative thought, you need to replace it with a positive one. The more you do this, the more positive thoughts become your new “habit”.

Over time, as your mental attitude improves, so does your silent communication. Your new body language “vibe” becomes the positive, confident, feel good vibe men find irresistible.

Perhaps the #1 Secret on How to Attract Men to You?

There’s nothing more attractive to a man than a woman who is comfortable in her own skin, confident in herself, and kind to others.

Kindness to others fosters a sense of trust and if he can be both wildly attracted to you as well as feel he can trust you (we talk a lot about trust in Girl Gets Ring by the way… extremely important on so many levels), you’ve got the makings of a great potential relationship!


Would you consider yourself a positive person with a “feel good vibe”? Do you think your “vibe” could be unknowingly pushing men away? I’d love to hear your thoughts on this in the comments below.

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  1. Chelsea
    7 years ago

    I seem to always attract controlling, insecure men; Is this a Toxic By product of my own outgoing personality, “feel good vibe”, or self confidence…?

  2. sylvia
    7 years ago

    I am a positive person with good vibes. I am 65 yrs and have amazing beautiful men of all ages attracted to me. I love who I am and feel complete in who I am. The beautiful relationships I have with men is simply an added bonus to already a beautiful life.
    Also, I so prefer communication with men over women. It has always been that way for me. Men are basically kind but it is the women that keep them from displaying that side. I myself have a very kind, loving heart and so do well with the opposite sex. It is a beautiful life.

  3. Lady friend
    4 years ago

    I am an attractive and confident 48 year old women. I have high spirits, down to earth, positive attitude, young at heart kind of gal. When I talk to my close male friends they think I have guys knocking down my door wanting to be with me which is farther than the truth. I’ve been told that some men feel that I’m out of their league so they don’t try to approach me. I’m some kind of threat. What does that mean? They don’t even know me. What kind of “vibe” am I sending and not realizing it? How does a man judge a woman on a “vibe” he gets when he hasnt even met her yet?