Dating Advice For Women And How To Find Mr. Right

Dating Advice For Women

Attracting men to you, and even your finding your perfect mate isn’t as hard as you might think.

Not if you’re equipped with a bit of wisdom, which is my goal today… to impart a bit of my own hard-earned wisdom to you. (And maybe a little wisdom from Gandhi.)

There’s a principle in Law of Attraction circles that is meant to help people achieve their goals. It’s called the “Be, Do, Have” principle.

In a nutshell it means that to be the person you want to be, you must do the things the person you want to be would do, in order to have (or attract) the things the person you want to be has.

Makes sense, right?

This principle can be somewhat adapted in helping you on your journey to find Mr. Right.

Dating Advice For Women Tip #1: Be What YOU Want:

In Girl Gets Ring I talk about knowing what you want, and being the love you want. And I take a page from Gandhi in sharing the quote “Be the change you want to see in the world”.

Gandhi’s message is simple. Be those things you want to attract most, and attract them you will.

But first you have to actually know what the heck it is that you want first! For example…

  • If you want a loving man that listens to you and moves through life with a great sense of humor, practice being loving towards others yourself, and having a good sense of humor.
  • If you want a man who is honest and loyal, demonstrate honesty and loyalty yourself in your relationships with others.

Whatever it is you want in a man, figure it out and then be those things yourself and you will find that attracting men with similar traits and values becomes much easier.

Dating Advice For Women Tip #2: Don’t Kiss a Lot of Frogs:

Knowing very specifically what you do and don’t want in a guy is so crucial. That old saying you have to kiss a lot of frogs to find Prince Charming is BS.

All you’re doing is setting yourself up for failure by dating every guy that crosses your path in hopes he could be “The One”.

It’s much more effective to make that list of all the qualities you want (or don’t want) in a man and use that list as the benchmark in evaluating a potential mate before you ever even go on a first date!

  • What are the things you absolutely will not compromise on when it comes to your man?
  • What are things you will compromise on?
  • Is honesty important to you?
  • What if he is a habitual or compulsive liar?
  • Are you into artists or science geeks?
  • Do you want an athletic or well-traveled man?
  • What about kids?
  • Does divorce wave a red flag for you?
  • Do you want a man with strong faith?
  • What if his faith is different from yours?
  • What if he yells a lot?
  • What if he isn’t affectionate?
  • What if he kisses funny?
  • Do you like tall men? Skinny men? Muscled men?

It’s important to get very specific with your list of acceptable or unacceptable qualities because the more specific you can get, the more you narrow down the playing field.

Dating Advice For Women Tip #3: Never Settle!

There are a LOT of fish in the sea and being selective in whom you choose to share your life with is perfectly OK.

Don’t take this dating advice lightly and settle for a man that is anything less than what you want him to be. If you do settle, you will just be opening yourself up to heartache when your expectations aren’t met.

So never mind investing time in a relationship that is doomed for an unhappy ending! Relationships are tricky even on good days.

You’re stacking the odds in your favor when you take some time for yourself to get really clear about what you want. This is a principle that applies to just about everything in life, but when you apply it to your relationships, amazing things begin to happen!

Last Piece of Advice About Attracting Men:

It’s too easy to fool yourself into wasting years of your life on the wrong guy. Then you stay even longer, attempting to change him, by rationalizing to yourself that you’ve already invested so much time, it’d be crazy to give up now.

But when you know going in exactly what you will or won’t be OK with, it becomes so much simpler to attract a man that is right for you. If a guy doesn’t fit your criteria, cut him loose and move on. Find the man who does fit your criteria.

Finding Mr. Right isn’t rocket science it’s more like a process of elimination. Find the best, discard the rest.

Now how about you? Do you know exactly what you want in a man? How specific are you? Do you demonstrate the qualities you want him to have in your own relationships? Please share your story in the comments below, I’d love to hear all about it.

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  1. Jenna
    7 years ago

    I am doing all of these things. I am very specific (some say maybe too specific) I am what I want in a man and believe/ do affirmations for attracting and get out there to find him. It used to be easy 5 years ago, so I am wondering if my age has anything to do with it. I seem to be approached by much older men and am having challenges finding a man who “fits my list” I know exactly what I want, but leave “wiggle room” so as to give myself more options. I have been online 4 quite awhile to broaden my search in this small town. I wonder if it may be the area because when I travel to California, I meet more interesting men who are age appropriate and are interested in me. I am flabbergasted that I am not in a wonderful long term relationship for all of the work, affirmations, positive actions, seeking, emailing, phone calling, going out I have done with sooo little return! It truly is wearing on me.

  2. Elida
    6 years ago

    I have been a very loyal and compasionate friend, mother, sister, daughter, i have been an unconditional servant ready to help to whoever needs it. I am an open book about my life, past, present and future. Never have had drama with anybody of my firends, family etc. I feel very fortunate to be accepted and love by most people i know…yet i have always attracted the sociopath kind of guys. I just broke up with one who I helped, support and love with all my heart for the past 4 years until i finally found the strenght to say no more…Im hurting terribly right now, and very scared about men and distrustful in general, i just feel like hiding right now. Im not sure how this law of attracion is suppose to work?. (Pardon my writing skills, English is my second language)

  3. Nkoli
    6 years ago

    I have not been so lucky with relationships,I have been heart broken many times with the wrong men. Right now am still nursing heart break from a relationship that I thought he was “The one”. I met this guy when I was believing God for Mr Right,so when he came along,I thought I have found him. I never knew he was engaged to a lady he has dated for three years. Before I could realise this it was too late,and I am so in love with him. Other previous relationship has been so ugly too,ends in abortion and heartbreak. Most times I ask God “why me”? Am so shamed of myself.

  4. Angelica
    6 years ago

    Great Advice,
    I’ve been a little too nice not knowing how to cut them loose but it certainly makes sense to do it early and move on. Dating is all about negotiations and I need to be the person I want decisive, firm and fair. I already said no more kissing frogs!

  5. San
    5 years ago

    Do you help in this kind of relationships.
    I met a guy over the internet that was from my old school, who does not remember me. We connected and talk for about 3 years over phone. It was a long distant relationship. He told me that he really liked me a lot. I stop calling him after a while, because I need to focus on my schooling. I let him know when I graduated and he congratulated me, but we do not talk often. I have not talked to him in 1 month or seen him in about 4 months. I know he really liked me, but I think he has move on. He knows that I am waiting for marriage to break celibacy. He is not ready for any commitment.

  6. Sharon Mittan
    5 years ago

    I am a 70 yr old widow who has been dating since January…..the first man I dated didn’t want a serious relationship but I was totally in love with him…..and the sex was great for both of us….he told me in July that he wasn’t going to see me but he kept coming back..until last month when he told me that he was seeing someone else and wouldn’t be seeing me again. I now am seeing someone else that I am very attracted to….we met online and he talks to me/calls me most days. I really enjoy talking to him he has a great sense of humor. He’s been at my place for dinner the last 4 weekends and we’ve watched movies, football and talked a lot. However, the only time he is affectionate is when he comes in and when he leaves he gives me a kiss or two. He’s a wonderful Christian man and says he wants to take it slow, and I can handle that but wish he was a little more affectionate. How long should I wait to see if he really sees me as a “long term” endeavor? I can see myself with this man long-term (which is what he says he wants) and I don’t believe he sees anyone else (he doesn’t have time as he still works) I am really afraid to ask him how he feels because I am afraid of what his answer might be…As a Christian there is no sex involved but it would be nice to know if I even appeal to him that way…. any suggestions?

  7. Jacqueline
    4 years ago

    I think I was not borne to have a life partner, I have been heartbroken many times with the wrong men. I was married for 13yrs I had to live the marriage because the man I was married too had an affair with a church choir lady they had a child together. I filed for a divorce I stayed for a year trying to recover from my divorce. Then I fell in love with a divorcee man who had the same problem like me, our affair lasted for a 2yrs I thought he was Mr Right only to find that he had been dating different women, I break up with him. I stayed for 5yrs without a man in my life. I prayed to God to give me Mr Right man who will truly love me. The man I am dating now is also a divorcee, we share a townhouse together for a year. He had a problem with his job he had to leave the city and go to work in another city now it is a distance relationship. We use to call each other twice or three times a day and I used to visit him once a month now things have changed we are no longer communicating his always busy when I call him or he will cut our conversation short, he only calls me when he has a busy to attend in my town or when he visits his children and he will not come to my place. All this men I have been supporting them when they were in difficulties and I have been loyal to them I treated them like men and they also thank me for respecting them taking care of them. They will tell me that my ex-husband was a fool to live me and they are scared that I must not lend on wrong hand because man will play with my feeling. Like now I am trying to move on with my life but my mind keeps on thinking about him, I am hurting terribly right now, and very scared about men and I don’t have a heart to hurt a person.